Before our wedding day I used to worry about the silliest of things, obviously to me then they were not silly and did indeed warrant stressing over. I’m sure I’m not the only bride to get herself in a tizz about things that other people wouldn’t even bat their eyes about, so here is my list of worries I had and the outcome.
Worry: I’ll cry/fall/make an arse of myself walking down the aisle.
I had stairs to walk down so I was even more nervous about walking down the aisle than I possibly should have been. In fact this was probably one of my biggest worries in the run up to the wedding. I knew I’d be nervous and a combination of wobbly knees and heels didn’t bode well for me.
Truth: I didn’t fall and I didn’t make (too much) of an arse of myself. I was incredibly nervous but I clung on to my Dad and managed the stairs perfectly. Almost like my legs went on auto pilot whilst the rest of my body concentrated on essential functions like breathing! I can’t remember if I cried or not but my body did freak out a little with the nerves. I shook uncontrollably and I couldn’t catch my breath, I managed to gain control of myself and barely took my eyes of Has, the photos show I smiled as I walked but to be honest the little details are blurry.
Worry: I’d mess up my vows or cry through them
Getting your tongue around words like “Impediment” and “Solemnly” can be tricky enough but with 80 plus people staring at you it feels like you may as well have to say the entire verse of “Peter Piper picked a pepper!”
Truth: Cliché but when I reached Has I completely forgot there were other people watching me. I carefully listened to our registrar and repeated slowly after her as clearly as I could. I was a bizarre feeling but at that moment it really did only feel like the two of us.
Worry: Our guests would be waiting around for too long after the ceremony
We didn’t serve canapés after our ceremony so I was worried that our guests would be really hungry. I also worried that whilst we had our photos taken people would be standing around for ages waiting for the next stage of the day
Truth: Yes, there was a small amount of waiting around but luckily for us our guests mingled drank their Kir Royale and even took the opportunity to take photos themselves. By the time the meal was served I think our guests were just the right amount of hungry to enjoy their food.
Worry: No one will dance and the marquee will look empty
The maximum capacity for the marquee is 250 and we invited just over 180. I was concerned that if our guests drifted out to the other rooms in the hotel the room would look empty and no one would be dancing whilst the band were performing or the DJ was playing
Truth: At no point in the evening did I look around and think it looked empty. Our band were so entertaining the place was packed with dancers! Yes a few people drifted off the hotel’s other bar or into a quieter room but honestly it didn’t make a difference.
Worry: It’s going to rain
With a November wedding this was always a possibility. I don’t mind the rain but I really didn’t want it to have a negative effect on the day
Truth: It rained. During the day it was on and off. Luckily it stayed dry long enough for us to have our photos outside however, during the evening it really really rained. I had bought sparklers (what with it being bonfire night and all!) but it was just too heavy to even attempt it. At that point of the day I didn’t even mind, everything else had gone so perfectly that not even rain could put a dampener on our day… sorry terrible joke!
I think it’s normal to worry about things during the run up to your wedding day, but not even a mix up with our chair covers just hours before the ceremony began phased me. At that point I had done all I could and my intention was to thoroughly enjoy it.